TV Shows You Should Check Out Even If Just for the Cool Opening Titles

Before we begin, a note:
No, I did not include Game of Thrones and Stranger Things because while those have really awesome opening titles, everybody and their grandma has watched them so what is the point of me promoting them. Classics like The Simpsons, Friends, and Doctor Who have been left out as well because I said so. If there’s a show here I didn’t mention it’s probably because a) I haven’t seen it yet, b) I forgot about it (feel free to yell in the comments), or c) it’s not as long or on the same production level as some of these titles (see end of post). Continue reading


Things to remember

  1. You are not constantly responsible for everyone’s happiness.
  2. You are not responsible for a person’s willful ignorance.
  3. Choices made out of fear are not as worthwhile as ones made out of love and respect (whether for others or for yourself).
  4. People who consciously hurt you (physically, verbally, mentally, emotionally) to “teach you a lesson” or because that’s how they show “love” are people you do not need in your life.
  5. You have the right to distance yourself from people who directly or indirectly hurt you. You do not need to be loud and malicious about it, even if that will bring you (temporary) joy.
  6. When a person is hurting you, it is not about you. It is usually the need to feed their ego or they are projecting their issues onto you.
  7. You do not need to hear anyone’s explanation why a person is hurting you. You do not need to consume yourself with trying to understand why a person is hurting you.
  8. Just because you are an easy target does not make you weak or cowardly or not worthy of support and love.
  9. There is a fine line between paranoia and sensitivity, self-doubt and self-awareness, being understanding of others and being stepped on by others.
  10. It’s not your fault.
  11. If it is your fault, recognize it and own up to it.
  12. When someone hurts you, you have the right not to listen to them or accept their apology until you are ready.
  13. When you apologize to someone, that person has the right not to listen to your or accept your apology until they are ready.
  14. You have the right to be selfish, to say no to things, especially if you know they will cause you harm.
  15. Every side should be heard, but once a person becomes combative and harmful, you have every right to say no and to take yourself out of the conversation.
  16. People say cruel things when they’re upset and even when they’re not upset. They could be true or at least a fraction of the truth or just outright lies to make themselves feel better. You have the right to feel hurt. You have the right to let them know. You have the right not to listen to these cruel things.
  17. When you say “no” or “stop” and they do not listen, you have the right to leave and keep yourself safe. Even when you do not say “no” or “stop,” you still have the right to leave and keep yourself safe.
  18. There is no shame in asking for help. Keeping yourself safe is worth all the shame you are afraid of.
  19. You are not responsible for people who do not know or refuse to know your truth.
  20. When people have made up their minds about you and dismiss your truth, you do not owe them any explanation.
  21. You do not owe anyone in the world any explanation about your life (unless they are directly affected), period.
  22. Keep a record of EVERYTHING. Even the ugly things. Your past informs your present and future.
  23. The flashbacks may be less frequent and the bad voices may quiet down, but that doesn’t mean they will never come back again and in full force. That happens. It’s not your fault.
  24. You will feel alone even when given help or comforted by others. That’s okay. You are alone. You are alone and that’s okay. You will need to accept being alone and find strength in it. The validation you seek can be found nowhere else but in yourself.

A Reaction to a Reaction

Considering everything that’s going on, this is the most delayed of takes, but I can’t stop thinking about this article.

It’s written by a Fil-Am based in the US and it reads like a high school paper written 30 minutes before the deadline. He’s not wrong to criticize the Tizons, but what he gets wrong is something so seemingly simple–the etymology of “Lola.”

He writes:

“The name “Lola” likely traces its roots to “dolor,” the Spanish word denoting pain — but Lola, a diminutive of Dolores, connotes the strength that suffering builds.”

I can imagine how smug he must have felt finding some sort of poetry~ or whatever in that.

But this guy’s Filipino-American! Surely there was someone who could’ve told him “Lola” is derived from “abuela,” the Spanish word for grandmother (and likewise “Lolo” is from “abuelo“). Or at the very least GOOGLE it? But I mean the guy also wrote, “In Tagalog, the language of the Philippines,” which says a lot about what little he knows.

So it makes me wonder 1) how this guy thought he had the authority to speak on this issue; 2) how this got published; 3) why the author did not respond to Filipinos calling him out; and 4) how many times has this happened but with regards to other cultures? Continue reading


I am Not Your Cash Cow

Art on featured photo by Amanda Allen Niday

Yesterday, news broke that Le Fou in the live-action adaptation of Beauty and the Beast will be Disney’s first ever openly gay character. Some people found this groundbreaking, or at least, that’s how Disney is trying to market it.

There will be a “short, but explicitly gay scene” in the film, and  Attitude editor-in-chief Matt Cain describes it as a “watershed moment for Disney”

Attitude‘s cover featuring the film’s main stars, Emma Watson and Dan Stevens, claims it’s Disney’s “gayest film ever.”

Some people were thrilled by this, but I remain a skeptic because…well, it’s Disney. And even if Disney believes it’s thinking outside the box, said box still lives in a pretty, little Disney bubble of its own.

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